3 Components of a Successful Relationship

I frequently discuss how to go from singlehood to dating, but today I wanted to go a little deeper and discuss how to genuinely succeed in a relationship. Isn't that the ultimate objective? I don't want my clients to start a relationship just to struggle to maintain it.

I recently got married in November after dating my wife for five years, and I wanted to talk a little about what I believe makes relationships work for everyone.

Of course, a mutual affection and trust comes first. Do the two of you share a rewarding, meaningful, and deep connection? There might not be much left to do or share in the relationship if that is absent. This person ought to be both your lover and best friend! That is the fundamental requirement for a loving partnership. I rely on the counsel of legends like John Gottman, a psychologist who, along with his wife, has made significant contributions to the field of couples therapy. His research has enabled his team to forecast the likelihood of divorce in a relationship with an accuracy of 94%.

He identifies the four horsemen that will bring about a relationship's demise:

1. Criticism (attacking the core of their character)
2. Contempt (actually being mean and assuming a morally superior position)
3. Defensiveness (feeling wrongly accused and playing the victim)
4. Stonewalling (completely withdrawing when conflict arises)

Sharing the same beliefs, objectives, and view on life is the second essential component of a successful partnership. If the two of you agree on these points, you can get through anything that comes your way in life. What am I referring to here? I don't always mean having all the same likes and hobbies, but rather having same goals and accomplishing them in life (although this is helpful of course). Do you both anticipate living similar lives in 20 years? Do you two want children? Do both of you aspire to a brighter tomorrow? Does your spouse share your objectives? Do you adhere to the same faith or life philosophy? Do your moral principles agree?

In other words, can you guys maintain that firm foundation you share despite all life throws at you?

The third component is consistently working on the connection. Consider love like a plant that need constant watering and sunlight to survive. If you wanted your plants to develop, you wouldn't just stop watering them, would you? A wonderful relationship requires a lot of respect, humility, and generosity to be sustained. It need not be flawless, but if both of you are giving to one another, you will both feel as though your cups are full.​

My desire is to help as many people as I can discover their soulmates after finding mine in this life since I know the joy having a loving and supporting companion gives. My life's work is my passion!

Please contact me right away if you want to team up with me as your Mens Dating Coach. Contact me here. Love is waiting for you out there!