There’s a lot of factors, but I’ll be really honest with you . . .
The biggest reason why you are still alone is because you don’t want to ask anyone for help!!!!
That’s the number one reason men will struggle for years, if not their whole life with women. It’s because their ego tells them that they don’t need any help, and that they can just do it all by themselves.
Let’s be real though, how long have you been telling that terrible lie to yourself and still haven’t gotten much results?
I remember about ten years ago, I was in the same boat. My dating life was terrible. I didn’t know how to find a girlfriend, how to talk to women, how to flirt, and how to make the conversations more man to woman rather than mundane. I would often run out of things to say. I didn’t get many dates. If any, they were just through luck.
If I met a girl and it didn’t work out because I didn’t actually have any skills, I would be in a drought for months!
I’d be like a lion in the Sahara desert; having not eaten for a year about to die from starvation haha.
But what did I do that changed all of this??
It’s that time of the year again! When most people get off work, have some free time and get to spend it with their family and loved ones for the holidays!
The holidays are a great time to catch up with friends or with family members, eat all the yummy food and stuff our faces with dessert and cookies without feeling so guilty.
It’s a time we look to be sharing laughter with our loved ones and to give and receive presents.
The only problem is, studies have shown that Christmas day for single people is the most depressing day of the year, even beating out Valentine's day.
This is where you are going to get bombarded by your family members about your love life. All these questions about if you have a girlfriend, how your dating life is going, and if you’re ever going to settle down. Lots of annoying questions that we really feel uncomfortable responding to.
Getting a girlfriend without using dating apps is a lot easier than you think.
But that being said, it will be a bit uncomfortable because it will mean that you actually have to talk to women.
Yes, I said it - talk to women.
Be social, get out of your comfort zone, make small gestures, smile and build fun, playful conversations with people.
And no, I do not mean in virtual reality or in video games, I mean in real life.
Now you're probably thinking, ok where am I going to meet women in real life? I work 9-5 and I don't have much time.
Well, the best time to go and meet women is in your transition periods.
What is a transition period?
A transition period is a time in between something that you are doing in your daily life.
So, let's imagine you working the usual hours every single week. The average guy goes to a coffee place when he wakes up, maybe walks into Starbucks and then as he opens the door, he sees a very attractive woman in line so he gets behind her as he waits to get his coffee.
The new year is here! I feel that the older I get, the faster that time goes by!
I used to always remember hearing my grandparents or older people tell me, “When you get older time is going to fly by faster.” I never really believed that saying until I started experiencing it for myself!
I feel that it was just the other day that everyone all over the world was panicking about Covid-19, and taking all the toilet paper and other essentials!
People were going crazy all over the world and that was in 2020! Now we are already in 2022!!!!
It’s crazy because time did fly by and now, we are in another start of the year!
That being said, what are your goals for 2022?
Perhaps the last two years you celebrated new years with no new year’s kiss, no amazing woman to have on your side, and that's totally ok! You were on your mission, chasing excellence and working on your career and other goals.
But there's this myth that I want to debunk. When people say, “John, don’t worry about looking for a partner. The right woman will come along your path one day and you will find her.”
Excuse my language but that's the biggest bull sh** advice that is not true, and someone has to say it. It is a common belief that most men or women think one day their partner is just going to fall from the sky and into their laps, and they will find their perfect girlfriend to marry to live happily ever after.
This type of belief is what keeps most people single for years! Literally YEARS, and for some, for life!!!!!
Getting a girlfriend online is not as hard as you think. However, there has to be strategy before sailing your ship into the sea. You have to have a Plan. As Winston Churchill says, “Failing to Plan, is Planning to Fail.”
Most guys do exactly this, and this is one of the major reasons why guys don’t seem to have much luck in online dating apps. They don't have much of a strategy and also don't have a Plan.
It used to not be like this. The competition online wasn't as bad a few years ago, but since Covid-19 and where technology has been going, the percentage of people online has skyrocketed. And with new algorithms, the competition for men has become more fierce than ever.
So we have to have a plan. Let’s talk about the do’s and don'ts.
Since attention span nowadays is very short and people are actively swiping left or right, you need to have strong, solid profile pictures. Especially the first picture. There’s a reason people say “you never have a second chance to make a first impression” so much. It’s because unfortunately that’s how our brains are wired!
You're a professional or entrepreneur working 40+ hours every week.
You feel that there's more to life than just working day in day out.
You are sick and tired of waking up alone every single day. You get out of bed and thinking to yourself “this is not what i imagined my life would be like”
You thought that by now the success that you have in your career would just translate over in your love life. You thought it was part of the package.
Inside your head you're saying “I have success in my career. I have the money, I have the resources, but why am I still alone?”
#1: You keep waiting for the perfect moment.
A lot of guys think that to attract a high quality woman and relationship, they need to be “ready” first.
Once they have the perfect job title, make a certain amount of money, have their dream car or finally put in enough hours in the gym so that they’re jacked.
They say, “I’m working too much, I don't have enough time. Once I have more time then I will be ready to find someone and settle down.”
The truth is that if you are a professional or entrepreneur, you are always going to be working long hours. And you know that, don’t you? We all know you’re not just going to wake up one day and stop working, right?
There never ends up being a perfect moment, so the love life gets neglected and put on hold till “one day,” which might never happen.
The day that it could happen is the day you decide to make it happen. To talk to that girl you sometimes see in your neighborhood, to take her out on a date, and to be a responsive and decisive man that women want.
You have been lied to!
A lot of men think that as long as they take care of their career goals, and have success in that area of their life, everything will fall into place. They’ll attract the woman of their dreams and everything will be perfect!
The sad reality is, life just doesn’t work like that.
If that was the case, every successful professional or entrepreneur can easily find a girlfriend or they would be in a perfect relationship with their dream partner, and no one would be struggling in this aspect of their lives.
But that’s far from the truth. Actually, it is quite the opposite.
After college, when most men have entered their career or are running their business, they are not exposed to women the way they used to be.